Are you afraid of Change? The definition of change is to make or become different. Another acceptable definition is to take or use another instead of. Why are we afraid to make or become different? Why does fear set whenever there is a need to make a decision to make changes from one thing to another or to move from one place to another? Change jobs, make a decision to change a behavior, or simply just take time away from everything and everyone else to focus on “yourself.”
Adapting to any kind of change in your life can be very stressful. But it does not have to be. I believe that we deal with change in a negative way because of fear. Fear of the unknown. If I do this? Then what? If I move, how will I manage? If I leave this toxic relationship, will I find someone else? We tend to focus mainly on what if’s and not on what is.
Change is one thing in this life that is constant. Change is inevitable. In my opinion, change is always for the better. I had a client who was working at a job for 10 years. The job became more of a habit for him than a liking. He was afraid to embark on a new journey because most of his family worked the same jobs doing the same things for 15 or more years. Despite his daily frustrations with the redundant tasks that had to perform and no longer seeing his job as a challenge to help him improve the skills that he had mastered, he was afraid of making a change. He was afraid of what others might say. In working at this job he had become so skilled in his work that he could become a manager at another company or even open his own company. He complained everyday about no longer being happy with his job. I helped him realize that remaining at this job would not only be a disservice to himself, due to the uneasiness and stress that it was causing, but that he would have to make a decision so that the job would not continue to have the negative impact it was having on his life and how the affects is was having on his family.
We must learn to embrace change. Any change comes with setbacks and creates an uncomfortable environment, but I strongly believe that it is only temporary. Change creates growth, growth is always for the better.
Being resistant to change comes with a price, your unhappiness. If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it. Don’t ever be afraid to change something good for better. When you change your mind, you create opportunities to change your life. Do not allow yourself to be imprisoned by FEAR. Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. Remember, if you cannot change your mind, you cannot change anything.