Keeping Love Alive
Love is the center of every relationship. One of the most famous songs by the band The Eagles was titled “Love Will Keep Us Alive.” However, love is not the only thing that keeps couples together. There are things that need to be present in order to keep a relationship healthy and flourishing.
These qualities are essential for both partners in order to maintain a healthy relationship:
Trusting each other. This means loyalty. Being confident that your partner will remain loyal despite the fact that he/she is surrounded by temptations. This is knowing that your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife loves you enough not to cheat on you. Being jealous and overreacting to situations without knowing the facts is harmful. Acting on impulse because of jealousy will only bring issues to the relationship.
Respect for each other. Give respect to your significant other so that it comes back to you. Treat others the way you would want to be treated and it will be reciprocated. This include respect for your individuality, for your unique personality, your sense of humor, or even the weirdest things about you. It also entails having respect for the decision that you make, whereas your partner understands and respect your decisions. In simple terms, mutual respect in a relationship means that you value each other’s differences and understand them, not trying to change other person’s personality. You love them for who they are.
Maintain a sense of fairness. Relationships are never one-way street. It should always be give and take. This may be something as simple as choosing a location for vacation or a movie to watch. This means establishing mutual consent on whatever the couple wants to do, instead of making the decision without the other person’s being aware and then it becomes a battle for power.
Keep an Open line of Communication. Allowing the freedom for each other to express feelings honestly without the fear of being ridiculed or misinterpreted is a key ingredient to a healthy relationship. Being able to initiate a conversation to speak what is on your mind shows that there is a comfort in the relationship to discuss a vast array of topics with each other. Be mindful that what is being said is taken in a pleasant and constructive way. Remember is not what you say, but how you say it.
Honest, Honesty, Honesty. Honesty and trust goes hand in hand. Being honest in a relationship builds trust. If honesty doesn’t exist in the relationship, trust disappears as well. With both of these qualities absent between two people, there is no relationship. Many times honesty and trust issues arise because one person is in doubt because of previous issues from past relationships. Stop killing your relationship with past issues.
Support. This doesn’t only mean offering your support to your partner when they’re down or faced with a difficult situation. Your partner also needs your support during times of happiness and triumph. It such a wonderful feeling to know that someone’s with you when you’re in the mud, but it’s also nice to have someone to share your sweet success with.
Separate Identities. This means compromising in situations where there is a difference in interest. This doesn’t have to end up with one losing his identity just to give way to the other person. Both partners should still be able to maintain time for their own interest like when they started with the relationship.
Relationships don’t work out on its own, it needs work. What may have started as a love-filled relationship is not guaranteed to end up love-filled like before. Falling in love is easy, staying in love requires work. Not many people want to put the work in, but they want to be loved. Understanding you and your partner’s differences, embracing those little difference and working around those will make your relationship easier to handle. Keeping it healthy, will make you both flourish and grow not just as individuals, but as a couple as well. Keeping the Love alive.